Domestic violence and abuse is about someone trying to have power and control over you and everything you do. Abusers will do anything to keep that control. Domestic violence is rarely a one-off event and physical violence often escalates in frequency and severity over time.
Domestic violence is usually perpetrated against women by men they know. However, men are sometimes abused by their female partners, and parents are sometimes abused by their children. Domestic violence affects people of all ages and from all backgrounds and communities.
Bright Sky App
Bright Sky is a new app to help victims of domestic violence record evidence of their abusive relationships and seek professional help. Bright Sky helps people experiencing domestic abuse to log private journal entries in the form of text, photos and videos, which are then sent to a designated email address. This information can be sent to the authorities at a later date.
The app also uses GPS to find help points nearby and offers advice for people in an abusive relationship, or for people who are concerned about someone else.
Android and iOS platforms
Children living with domestic violence and abuse are more likely than other children to be directly abused themselves. Children witnessing domestic violence and abuse are at risk of being harmed emotionally and psychologically and their education, behaviour and development may also suffer.
If you, or someone you know, are affected by domestic violence and you would like advice, information, need somewhere safe to stay or simply want someone to listen please contact one of the organisations below.
Newark Women's Aid
Refuge and outreach services
Nottinghamshire Women's Aid
Refuge, supported housing, resource centre,
drop-in and outreach services
01909 533 610
Promoting equal, healthy relationships free
from domestic abuse. Equation’s goal as a charity
is for everyone to have equal, healthy relationships,
in a society free from domestic abuse, sexual violence
and gender inequality.
0115 9623 237
If you are a man in Nottingham (16+) or Nottinghamshire (18+)
Call Equation's service for men on 0115 960 5556
Nottinghamshire Domestic Violence Helpline
24 hour free phone
0808 800 0340
Text phone 0808 800 0341
(for people who are deaf or hard of hearing)
National Domestic Violence Helpline
24 hour free phone
|0808 2000 247
Domestic Violence Co-ordinator
Information and support
It is not always easy to believe that you are in an abusive relationship, but acknowledging that you are is an important step in preventing and stopping the violence and abuse.
Services for men experiencing domestic abuse
If you are a man living in Nottinghamshire and you are experiencing domestic abuse you can call Equation’s service for men for guidance and support.
Equation will talk through what you are experiencing to identify what support you might need, which may include signposting you to legal, health or housing services.
Equation’s service for men: 0115 960 5556
Opening Hours: Monday to Friday 9.30am-4.30pm. A confidential 24-hour answerphone service is available and we aim to respond to you within 2 working days.
No matter who you are, you have the right to live free from violence and abuse.
Domestic violence disclosure scheme
Something not quite right?
Have you ever, when being with people through doing your job, or even when with friends, thought there is something not quite right about a relationship they are in?
It might be just a feeling, or there might be other things that seem a bit odd. Does the person's partner call and text them all the time? Does it ever seem like they're checking up on her? Maybe she seems to make excuses about why she can't meet up, or get the sense that her partner is taking over her life.
Other things you may notice are that it seems like the person won't make a decision without checking with their partner first? Does she often seem worried about her partner's reaction?
Have you noticed her treading on eggshells to avoid rowing with her partner? Have you ever got the sense that she is afraid of them?
Even if you do notice and think about this, you have probably thought there is nothing you can do to help.
But there is.
It's called the Domestic Violence Disclosure Scheme (DVDS) and is also known as Clare's Law.
The scheme gives members of the public a formal way to make enquiries to the police about an individual they suspect may be abusing their partner. The alleged abuser will not find out that DVDS has been used or who has asked.
If police checks show that the individual has a record of violent offences, or there is other information to indicate the person you know is at risk, the police will consider sharing this information with the person(s) best placed to protect the potential victim.
That person may not be you, but you will have taken the action to protect the person you are worried about.
The scheme is designed to help potential victims to make an informed choice on whether to continue the relationship, and provides help and support when they are making that informed choice.
All you need to do is contact the police, say you wish to use the DVDS scheme, and provide the name of the person you think may be violent. Contact the police in the usual ways - call 101, pop into a police station, or approach an officer in the street.
Asking that question really could save someone's life.
More information available on the Nottinghamshire Police website.
Cyber crime and domestic violence
Cyber crime is a crime that takes place online.
Nottinghamshire Police takes cyber crime very seriously. Victims of cyber crime can be a single person, a group of people, or an organisation. Some examples of how cyber crime can affect you include
- Having your social media or other online accounts hacked
- Being bullied online (often referred to as cyber bullying)
- Someone gaining access to your online banking account and online accounts
- A partner invading your privacy
Nottinghamshire Police publish useful information on how to protect yourself from cybercrime.